Sunday, March 07, 2010 ()
YOUR NAME @ 2:30 PM / comment (0)
The thought of the day:-
The word "Anger"
Personally I have a problem controlling my anger especially when it is an argument with my mother. Every single time she scolds me for doing something, I will always find that her scoldings are nonsensical and totally unreasonable. At almost anytime, I can feel my 'inner demon' trying to burst out and take over my body. I had tired to find ways of controlling my anger. So ways consist of:-
1) Counting 1 to 10
2) Taking slow and deep breathe
3) Control, control and control - Dun speak, Dun open my mouth
4) Try to occupy myself in something else.
This is what I would normally do in order to avoid confronting my mother about her nonsensical scoldings. Some of her scolding is due to the fact that she herself did not provide clear information or instructions to complete the job. An example would be that she told my sister to 'unplug' the silicon tube by cutting off the 'extra' part that is poking out from the tube. Base common action and thoughts, one would just cut off the whole 'extra' part. But in actual fact, you have to just remove a small part of the 'extra' part so that an extra cone can be screwed to it, so that the silicone can flow out in a more streamline shape. What my sister did was to cut of the whole 'extra' part. Thus result in a freaking & nonsensical scolding from my mom.
To me that scolding was super nonsensical. If she wanted something to be done right, she should not assume that we know everything, she should have just told us clearly, how much to cut and not to cut. I choose to use method 3 to avoid any argument. She just kept ranting and ranting. I spoke to someone with regards to my form of anger. He told me that what is the point of being angry? Do you benefit for any form of anger or argument. Is there really no point of being angry? Why do we get angry? Do we benefit from getting angry? Why do we get angry?
I wonder that when we get angry and why do we argue? I believe that everyone of us live in a society of known as a culture of pluralism, where everyone are different and has a different set of beliefs and values. We have conflict so as to fight for what we think is right. We put our needs up front and we choose to fight for these needs. Is that being selfish? Does selfishness led to conflict causing anger? If that is the cause... should we be less selfish?
Will there be other ways to control anger? What cause us to be so angry? Can we not be angry?
Angry? Think again...